Lo Spaccio suit – Pineberry shirt – Tous peearl ring
Photos by Emil Costrut – Flowers by La Vie en Rose
Meryl Streep once said that what makes you different or weird – that`s your strength.
I never was like everyone else. That was, is and always will be my power. But if you cannot handle it and wear it proudly, this label can also be a curse. Being different does not mean that you are smarter or more anything than everyone else. For me it just means making decisions for Me, not for society, likes (although I admit that most of the time I clean my desk before taking a picture of it) or social acceptance. I never aimed to be like this. As a teenager I was deeply frustrated by it, I tried for so long to fit in, to wear what was trendy, to behave like my high school colleagues, to drink the same sodas they did, to read the same books, to do the same things they did in their spare time, to wear my hair long although I look like crap with longer hair, to never say what I really wanted but what was considered `perfect`, to not stand out, to just be fucking `normal`as society puts it until I snapped. One day it all just stopped. I felt as if I tried even for another day to be someone I`m not I would literally die. And I stopped trying. I just stopped being someone else.
Then the talking, gossipping, bullying started. I was different. I was crazy, a freak, a menace. My girlfriends abandoned me, my boyfriends thought I was too strong and straightforward for them, my parents told me that I failed in fulfilling their dreams, my relatives were outraged. Don`t imagine I turned into a crazy bastard over night. No, I was just making decisions for my own sake and happiness. And that in everybody`s eyes that was just WRONG. But I did not back up. I moved out when I was 15 and I never looked back. I graduated from a college I disliked, bailed on that profession, I started to feel like my hometown wasn`t enough, I moved, I felt social media was pressuring me to always have different make-up and hair styles but I never quit my trademark hairdo and make-up. Although that meant loosing commercial beauty contracts.
I was in my mid twenties when I finally started to feel empowered, really Empowered by being different. But when I got there…the feeling of being in control of my own life, of taking pride in being who I was, in being authentic…everything else melted, all the insecurities just vanished. And everything I did from that moment on made me feel Unstoppable.
I wanted to share this with everyone who might be in the same situation. I just want you to know that being who you really are is Awesome. Special. POWERFUL. Never let society take that away from you!
I`ve recently met this young lady. And I want to highlight this article from her blog. I wish I was this powerful when I was 20…
It`s 4 am in the morning, I have to get some sleep. I`m shooting with an eagle tomorrow morning (God help me) but I`ll tell you this:
Don`t wait for Tomorrows. Life is happening now. YOUR LIFE is happening Now.
Mesajul asta a picat LA FIX, you are so right! By the way, Multumesc pentru mesajul tau, nici nu stii cat de spot on a fost! Eu sunt Sonia (din Cluj, with the most awesome best friend that met you on the street :)))
Have a great day!
Draga Ana,
Felicitari pentru atitudine! Pff..ce-mi place! Am vazut ca de cateva zile esti la noi in Cluj. Oare avem vreo sansa sa te intalnim indeva (si nu intamplator :)? Un eveniment unde aa te ascultam?
Cuz meeting u is on my wishlist 🙂
ador stilul asta si cred ca ti se potriveste manusa. iar textul m-a uns pe suflet
You must know that you are not the only weird one out there. So here’s to us, the OTHERS 🙂 Maybe we will the normal ones some day, who knows?
Power suit ON! Arati genial
Florile mele preferat si stilul meu preferat- masculin with a twist. Foarte frumos
Doamne, cat de cunoscuta mi-e povestea asta. Eu am facut 2 ani de medicina, ceva cumplit. Acum sunt coafeza, cum zice mama, si foarte fericita
Well said, Ana, as usual
imi plac oamenii asumati, cei adevarati si puternici. si ma bucur sa vad ca exista in generatia si in generatia tanara si sper sa vina multi altii dupa aceia. pentru ca noi facem societatea, nu ea pe noi
Gasesti comori oriunde 🙂 costumul Lo Spaccio e divin
Life is happening now…so so true
Un costum impecabil, iar detaliile de pe sacou sunt foarte speciale.
You look superb
Articolul Patricie e foarte frumos si cu adevarat inspirational. L-am citit cu mare placere.
YOU is always the best version of you 😉
ador ultima fotografie, imi da asa o stare buna si ma face sa zambesc 😀
I only disagree with one thing you said.. your hair looked just as lovely long as it does short.
PS – I am still struggling very hard to get to that wake up call. Any tips?
Well, I just gave you some 🙂